The true meaning of communication is not simple
Certain therapists and even pastors teach or preach that ‘simple” is the “true” meaning of communication. If that were true, than we would be undermining both the purpose of communication (to evolve through collaboration, forming societies), and the process (improve interaction by improving our attitude).
To teach people to communicate in a simple way, is like turning back the clock. Modern man exists some 50,000 years. Writing originated less than 5,000 years ago. We started out with sounds and gestures and added symbols, because we need to collaborate in order to survive. The English language nowadays, totals approximately three quarter of a million words, distinct senses included. We come from a time when we did not know how to build a fire to being able sending people to planets in outer space.
We cannot control the way someone else interprets what we are saying. But we can correct misinterpretation, if we are willing to understand and be understood. To advise people not to care about another man’s perception, is a dictate for a counterproductive attitude. It will work as a counterweight, undermining the purpose of communication, which is to benefit all participants. In order for us to evolve as a species and as a society we must collaborate. We learn from others far more than we can ever learn from ourselves. Communication is meant to benefit everyone, sharing the same attitude.
* Communication lays the fundamentals of evolution in general and human society in particular, by enabling people to collaborate. The level of collaboration equals the level of communication.
* It enables mutual understanding (beneficial to all participants).
* The effect is predominated by our attitude. In order to communicate successfully, it is essential that participants are willing to understand and be understood.
Please do not stop caring about another man’s perception or interpretation of what you said or wrote and do not try to manipulate that. All you can do to make communication work, is stick to the Big Plan and give answers and ask questions that are understandable. Communication does not need any tricks to make it successful. All it needs, is an attitude of wanting and willing to understand and be understood. Tricks are for those who are not sincere, do not want to collaborate and do not want to share. If you want to understand, you will ask for an explanation of what you do not understand. If you want to be understood, you will explain into further detail, when someone does not understand you.